With holiday parties going on right now, you know a lot of drinking and socializing with come about amongst you and your co-workers. There’s always that co-worker in your life that you might have a big crush on. And who knows? They might feel the same way about you too. So maybe things might heat up during your company’s holiday party…
However, how do you guys and gals feel about following through with a romantic relationship with one of your co-workers? Do you things this is right? Do you believe something longterm could come about this? Or are you afraid of totally ruining the dynamic you happen to have in the workplace?
Things could go really bad if you happen to work closely with this individual in your everyday work. That’s the problem I see with workplace relationships. It’s awesome how you can really spend a lot more time with your boyfriend or girlfriend if you work in the same place, but what if things don’t work out with you guys? It’ll make you two look bad for your company and things could really tank in the workplace. Your peers wouldn’t like it if a botched relationship destroys your company’s or division’s performance.
That’s just my two cents.
On top of that, I don’t think I could deal with being around my boyfriend during the entire stressful work week. Working in different companies gives you something to look forward to at the end of the day, at the end of the week, and during holidays. When I’m working at my office (and not writing on this blog lol), I’m busting my butt off to get my job done and to surpass my company’s expectations. My career means a lot to me, so I’m doing whatever it takes to stand out from the rest and to make sure my projects are going as planned. Especially in this kind of economy, I’m doing a lot to make sure that I’m keeping my job and continuing up the corporate ladder.
When all that work is out of the way, then I can look forward to spending time with my boyfriend.
What do you feel about this?
Now, if I play the devil’s advocate here, let’s take things from another perspective. Many couples tend to have issues of finding time to spend with each other because of responsibilities like work or even grad school. And what if you have kids? There are so many things you have to worry about on your plate, that there doesn’t seem to be time left for the two of you.
If you’re working at the same company, then you can do little things such as eat lunch together every once in a while when you’re not working hard while eating at your desk or eating with other friends at work. Even a short coffee break helps. When you have these small spurts of time together, it relieves the need to spend as much time together outside of work with all the other responsibilities that have to be accounted for. Then it’ll seem like things are fine and nothing is missing between the two of you when it comes to spending time together.
Even if you look at things from that point of view, I’m still an advocate of not dating your co-worker. Since my career matters a lot to me and my future family’s future (haha…), I don’t want to jeopardize something I’ve been working so hard to develop all these years with a relationship.
Boyfriends and girlfriends come and go. You will find something special. However, in this kind of economy, you don’t want to lose your job or ruin your workplace dynamics through a workplace romance or a workplace relationship gone bad.
Just my 2 cents